It’s the end of the year and like everyone else, I do make small promises to myself.
One time I promised myself that I would quit smoking, that lasted 5 minutes and 3 seconds!
I remember thinking that making promises seems to be a bit unrealistic and somewhat goofy. What you did 5 minutes ago you will do again, especially if you time it.
I do things differently now. No more promises to anyone, including myself.
Instead, I take my newly old calendar and I look it over. I read the many times I have met friends, and whom I see the most. I look over the parties and special dates and for just a few minutes I replay them in my mind.
Then I am ready! I make a mental list of people I need to see more often and people I need to phone more. I include in my list all the places I wanted to see but didn’t get time to visit. Places like the Art Gallery, Christmas lights at Stanley Park and the many little markets.
I put my mental list on paper. Once it is on paper, it’s a plan. I will visit, email or phone the people who I didn’t spend a lot of time with last year, meet up with my current friends and visit some of the places I wanted to see.
The great point in all this is the fact that I gave myself 365 days to do it, with no pressures or headaches!
Now, that’s promises I could keep!
Maybe it’s time we all change our views about the promises we make on New Years. Maybe it’s about being a better friend than quitting a bad habit.